Oh did I say that...

It has been a week since I last posted on the blog page. I don't want to to just post anything so I can say I posted something. So if it seems that some times I post less often or more often that is why.crr


OH did I say that!
 Have you ever had cross words with someone and wish you had just kept your mouth shut? I know I have. Have you ever tried to reason with someone and end up in a verbal war? Again, I know I have. What is the solution. For years I feared being taken advantage of, of someone getting one up on me and this lead to some rather heated confrontations.  I have learn a thing or two and although I still forget myself, as the saying goes, once in awhile I have discovered a thing or two. One thing I have learned is if you have boundaries and are consistent in keeping them, then people are less likely to cross them. If you are consistent they learn that you really don't appreciate behaviors and if they are right minded and not just out to trouble any and or everyone they will respect those boundaries. This can be done without being a hard case yourself.(more later.) But you always run into those who are full of anger, pain, hurt or hate if not all of the above and reason does not work with such as those. What to do? That is one of the second lessons I have learned. Both lessons are based on a scripture in Proverbs. Proverbs 15:1- A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
About the first lesson I have learned. If you are dealing with someone who is a reasonable person you will be able to say in a kind way, " I am uncomfortable with x,yz"  and if needed explain why. First you are not accusing them of wrong doing(even if they are line crossing.) You are taking responsibility by saying." I am". This does not work with an enraged person. Many times when some acts ugly we want to respond in kind. Just say to yourself," SOFT ANSWER< SOFT ANSWER"..lol.  It is not always easy but sometimes an, " I am sorry you feel that way or I am not going to argue about this,' Then walk away.  I  remember a time when my husband and I had went to a new store and shopped. We had just finished unloading our shopping cart. We had run into one of my husbands cousins and were standing around visiting with him.Before I go any farther, we really should have put our cart up for someone else to use, but be that as it may, IT WAS OUR CART,anyway, this woman comes out of her car with a toddler in her arms and began to swear at us. " I need that GD cart!" at the top of her voice. Well in times past I wouldn't have been balanced. However when God does a work he does it well. I and my husband while shocked and the anger and  hate pouring off this woman, were able BY THE GRACE OF GOD to respond with a soft answer. "OH, I am sorry here let us help you get the baby in the seat." Did we owe her help? no, Did we owe her an apology? No but the result is she literally stuttered to a stop and conviction fell and you could see it in her face.The icing, tee hee, was when I was able to say with peace in my heart, "God bless you , you have a good day now." If you could have seen her face you would never doubt the scripture again."A soft answer turns away wrath."