show me how to love

I have come to know that in myself there is no good thing. That with out the Lord and the Holy Spirit that I can only love those who love me. I have been actively checking my heart and want to love the way the Father says to love. But how? By allowing the Holy Spirit to speak to me and CHOOSING to obey that still small voice. It is easy to love those who love you. It is easy to be kind to those who are kind; but, what do you do when someone is just plain old ugly to you? Be honest with yourself like I have been. Believe me it can be pretty scary. To be honest if I let the 'flesh' rule I would cut their guts open with  a sharp quick tongue and leave them to die or heal as best they could. That was the younger me by the way. BUT Jesus! I am not saying the urge to verbally slash has not hit me because it does quite often. I am not saying I always succeed in controlling that unruly member(tongue) and living out a love walk. I am saying that through Jesus I can do all things. What do I mean by this introduction?  Love is not always a feeling. Love is sometimes doing the right thing, the right way even if we don't FEEL like it. Take your neighbors -- they have multiple cats that mess in your garden--flesh way--scoop the poop and place it on their deck..God's way--clean up the yard, pray for them and if and when God opens the door try to reason with them.Let God take care of the results. What about someone who digs at you for months on end..flesh way--tell them to shut their pie holes, Gods way..pray for them and wait for God to either take care of it or if it is your responsibility wait for Him to open the door to deal with it in a God like manner. I guess the newest one I have learned is when someone is way uncool and hurtful. Depend on the Holy Spirit to respond in a godly manner. Even if it means walking away and waiting until a cooler head prevails..That is love. It isn't always that ooowey gooey feeling but waiting and doing the right thing. Love means being willing to suffer loss if need be for peace. Love means letting God correct things. Love mean loving God. 1 John 4:7-8 states,' Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He that loves not does not know God, for God is love.' So my fellow followers of Christ. Is there someone you you be hatin' on? Take it to Jesus. Is there someone who you don't hate but grates..take it to Jesus. Some time love is just walking away and praying for them. Take it to Jesus and He will show you the way you are to go. Remember the word tells us to not only love but to also get along with people, but, it also says as much as it is in your power. Some people will not allow peace, like I said earlier for those, love is breaking away from and praying for God to restore them. It is all done in submitting our will to God's will, our ways to His ways, our human love{or the idea of it}to His Love. Remember "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me", even love the unlovely. IT IS ALL IN, THROUGH AND BY JESUS CHRIST. Lord, teach me to love.